Hi Oracle,
I just came back from a meeting at a men's fraternity I attend to in a church every Wednesday and when I read your post I wondered if you actually are part of the meeting, lol because we spoke about that same thing in today's meeting. It's a fraternity by Robert Lewis
http://www.mensfraternity.com/ You deal with a lot of the father wounds and I just got to share some of mine in today's meeting. I recommend this to you if you haven't done it. I think there should be some church around your area that should do something like that.
What we usually do is watch a DVD per session and then share some with our small group of 4 or 5 people, it works really good and men help each other no matter what back round we have.