[irishman82]

Let me explain unto you a situation I am in briefly and tell me what must I do or focus on:

My wife and I are currently separated, mainly because of my anger/abusive issues that are currently being dealt with with 100% of my cooperation and willingness. She has gotten the raw end of the deal, however she is giving me a second chance so we work things out.

With this said, I was physically abused when I was a kid and dealt with in the wrong ways, mainly by my father, my mother would start some of these things up then when my father would get involved my mother would feel bad and ask my dad to stop while he was at me.

I explained this problem to my wife as soon as we got married, I was at a stage I did not want to know nothing from my parents, but she kept insisting and bringing them up, that we should keep in touch etc, well I eventually did and started talking to my parents again... this was 4 years ago.

Now 2 months ago, when my wife and I separated because of my physical abuse towards her, she exchanged some IM's with my mother who is in Europe, telling her that I am the way I am because of the way my parents brought me up (a violent person). My parents took offense to that and I heard it from my father on the phone, which is not the thing that bothers me that much.

What bothers me of all of this is that my wife has a flickr account which used to give access to my mom so she could see our daughter, 9 months old - their only grand daughter. As soon as all this happened my wife took the permissions for my family to see my daughter's pictures through flickr.

So I would like everyone to get along, but according to my wife my mother is a manipulative .... and my father a nut job, which... she is probably right, let us not argue about this. But the tables now turn as I am the one now, who begs for things to remain civil like she once did. Only I get the raw end of the deal with that.

I know the bible says I must divorce my parents when I marry my wife, and I have no problem doing that, I didn't want to have anything to do with them, but I do think that this is a bit over the line and would put a lot of pressure of from my conscience if things were done right.

I don't know, I am sure that if my wife were to read this I'd be missing something or misleading you but it is to the best of my ability the accurate truth.