[memoriesbymichelle]

That's why I'm not big on denominations or religion. In my opinion Religion is man's way of trying to reach or please God. I don't think all religions are bad necessarily, but they all have their flaws. I choose to believe the Bible first and foremost. I attend a non-denominational church that uses the ESV version
http://www.gnpcb.org/esv/preface/

I use the NIV, American Standard, New KJV. I like them all. You have to be pretty strong in your faith to attend a church like that and keep the good and throw out the bad teachings.

I don't agree with the whole "hate yourself" thing. I don't think God who loved us enough to send His son Jesus to die for us, would then want us to "hate" ourselves. I was always taught hate the sin, not the sinner.
I also don't agree that any music with a beat is from the devil, otherwise we wouldn't even be able to worship God with songs or music. They all have beats.
I would suggest talking to your parents after much prayer about the issues you bring up here. I don't know how your parents will react, but at least you will have voiced your concerns. Maybe you could find a youth group or Bible study and a non-denominational church in your area during the week to help keep you strong while you attend your parent's church on Sundays. Then maybe eventually they would consider switching churches if you really get in a good one and they see the good it does in your life.