[lin1235]

We definitely go to more trouble with his family. My parents are in town, and can see dd as much as they want (although I'm sometimes confused about why they don't make more trouble). Dh's family lives an hour away by plane, 8 by car, and so it's more trouble and more of an event when we do see them. Our parenting philosophy is also more like dh's family's. But we are really close with both, so I suppose it's more or less equal. We take turns wrt Christmas and so on.