[ThenThereWasRED]

I don't remember where but I've read stats to say, the mother of the husband usually causes more problems in a couple's marriage than her own mother. I think the husband has a lot to do with it on how he acts and reacts to family too.
My dad has said, he could live in the same house with my mom's side but couldn't live in the same town with his own family. My dad's mom gives unwanted advise and expects it to be done no matter if my parents agree or not. No person was good enough in my grandmother's eyes it seemed for her son. My grandmother is also jealous of my family spending any time with my mom's side and not staying the whole time with them when we visit. We live 400 miles away from both sides. When we do visit with them my dad doesn't do a whole lot of talking (being social with them) and my mom feels like she has to be the *social* one with his family. It makes it hard sometimes on her and makes her not want to visit much cause of it. My grandmother & dad's sister has always show partiality between my brother & me and it made me not want to spend a whole lot of time there either. My mom has been the one to reach out first no matter what happened or what was said and encouraged me to do the same. We try to make the best of not so good situations for the short visit times even when it's not easy and we would rather not sometimes.