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Originally Posted by irishman82
I am ready to move on. I started doing wrong, but she would only not let go but get everyone around us involved, she holds grudges and throws things at my face from even four years ago. She says she loves me on the phone in a tone that she expects me to say the same, yet she does not show that love.
My friends I am ready to move on.
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honestly this sounds like a woman who is really in pain. If she hated you and wanted nothing to do with you she would have served the divorce papers herself by now and wouldn't bother talking to you on the phone at all. What she's looking for is a real affirmation of your love for her. When all you do is fight and when she hears you're actively looking to meet other women it would only make sense she would try to hurt you by calling these women names and throwing things in your face from years ago. It may not be the right way to deal with that hurt but holding that against her isn't going to do much for making peace, all it'll do is carry on the cycle of unhealthy dialogue and interaction. She needs some reason to hope that things are going to turn around for you and there can be reconciliation.
have you ever read a book called The
PeaceMaker by
Ken Sande? If not i would suggest picking up a copy. My church went through this when we were going through a time of division but this also works well for personal one on one situations and takes you through a biblical plan for true reconciliation. perhaps it would help you and your wife to read through this together.