I am not actively seeking women but seems like those are the only people that want to have a bit of a chat with me and that's it. It stays there, I shared my problems with them seeking advice like I do here, and I get advice from what appears to me as two ladies. What is the difference?
I just see her as manipulative, everything I do is wrong in her mind. She wanted to get my parents out of the way so she drew a harsh boundary with no option to forgive them in the future. She restricted my parents to see their ONLY grand daughter from flickr for fear they would photoshop my daughter's picture, make a fake passport and kidnap her to Europe! She has
BLOWN THINGS OUT OF PROPORTION to her relatives, friends and people that know us. Her family speaks nothing to me, after I sent letters admitting what I did was wrong and that I am willing to change, I tried calling them they do not answer, these people are unforgiving, they do not bother to listen to me or what I have to say, I've just beaten the living crap out of their daughter and that's how they see it, when it's not!
I've admitted I will be stepping up to the plate, yet that is not enough for my wife, I just wanted moral support when all along she just kept telling me I was just getting a slap on the wrist. Well how worse does it get than what I mentioned above?
She sends me the 7 commandments, because I am not trustworthy!
Boundaries for me.
1. Take Saoirse?s name and photo off of Myspace. Her safety is at stake.
2. Stay engaged and committed to counseling, try the Controlled Separation.
3. Cease contacting single women on Myspace.com and/or adding them to your page.
4. If you get a roommate, only a male roommate,
5. If something is bothering about money or us, be upfront and honest about it. (i.e. Do not ask for the camera, then expect me to get the truth out of you. Say instead ?I have these bills that came in, I?m a bit worried, do you think we can discuss this??
6. No more lies. No more ?made up? people (i.e. Made up woman to meet in the park, etc?)
7. Keep lines of communication open as per the Controlled Separation.
Is she in a lot of pain or does she want me to feel it?
I might end up in hell someday when I die and I will try not to end up there then. But I will not live through one!