[s4bush]

Ours is equal as much as it can be with my parents living 8 hours away. I talk to my parents on the phone a lot, but we see my husbands parents alot b/c they live right down the road. I believe if my parents were close, we would spend more time with them b/c they would want to see the kids a lot more. My in laws enjoy their peace and quiet, and with three kids under the age of 4, you don't get much peace and quiet when they're around. I agree with youngmom4, the husbands are supposed to leave their parents and cleave to his wife, but the wife too is supposed to cling to her husband. There should be a good balance between families, considering the distance obstacles.