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Originally Posted by flnativegrl
I've been thinking about this one. My only real struggle with singleness is believing that there is a guy out there that wants an "instant family" since I have two young boys.
I keep the faith by reminding myself that the "right" man would not only be OK with the fact that I have kids, but he would want to be a part of their lives (emotionally and as a role model/authority figure). I would rather remain single than subject my boys to someone that would not be willing to fill the role in a positive, healthy way.
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For the right girl it wouldn't be an issue, for the wrong one it wouldn't help. What I am saying is that I once(2-4 times) dated a woman who had a couple of kids. The kids were not an issue, it is just that I felt no attraction to her. She was attracted to me and liked me, but I didn't feel any chemistry. But if had been attracted to her, the 2 girls would not have been a deal breaker.
I think I could be a good instant father for the right woman and her kids. I actually think I might be a better father than husband. Or at least I am more ready for that particular responsibility. I don't particularly like or dis-like kids as a group, I consider them individually and see how I feel about them same as I do with adults. I do care about children, but I don't view them as cult objects like some people do.
But there is only about one woman in all the world I would willingly go into such a situation with/for. I don't know if I would have to, but it is very possible.