I believe I have failed as a parent, my daughter is gay.

BlessedDragonfly · #11 (**permalink**) 02-29-2008, 06:55 PM

I don't see how you are a bad parent. Your daughter, like the rest of us, has been given free will. You shouldn't condemn yourself for the choices she makes. I'm sure that you have raised her to the best of your ability but it seems to me that she has let the "peer pressure" get to her or she is trying to test you in some way.

How much longer will she be attending that school? Maybe when she is done with school all of this will be a thing of the past?

JennForDelano · #12 (**permalink**) 02-29-2008, 07:23 PM

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How much longer will she be attending that school? Maybe when she is done with school all of this will be a thing of the past?

She'll be going there for the next few years, it's high school after all. Ever since she went to this school, she's professed lesbianism, anti-christianity (and wiccanism now) and feminism. I never instilled her with these ideas. What's happening?

under His wings · #13 (**permalink**) 02-29-2008, 09:27 PM

Why can't the schools be held responsible for these things when if they even mention Christianity the ACLU is all over them? It sounds like that school is dangerous for all the kids not just your daughter. If she is only in high school then perhaps you should look into changing schools, it may be difficult, it may be financially challenging but it could be just what is needed (I assure that it will not be wanted by her). Can your pastor help? This sounds too big for you, you need help. You can pray and give it to God but He may be wanting you to make a change for her, have you thought about it? All this time I thought she was in college and there was little you could do, but you have more options if she is still a minor. By the way, I would be all over that school making some noise if they are really encouraging this lifestyle.

BlessedDragonfly · #14 (**permalink**) 02-29-2008, 09:41 PM

I too thought she was in college. Also, I agree with UHW.

TrinityLives · #15 (**permalink**) 02-29-2008, 10:43 PM

Yeah if she is in High School and your able, I would yank her and get her in a private or home school or another High School if at alllll possible.
The other thing as suggested, is seek out counsel with your Pastor and see if he has expirience with spiritual warfare, your going to need help in this area. My family had been involved in witchcraft and cults, even though I wasn't it still can open the door to the enemies presence in your home. Which of course leads to all kinds of hurts and chaos.

Pray continually for a hedge of protection. Pray to rebuke any forms of evil that are upon your daughter or brought into your home. YOU have the authority as a believer in Christ to throw down the enemy beneath your feet! But if your new to that thought, you will need help in maintaining a strong stance in prayer and not to be fearful.

I had found a ton of info online about spiritual warfare , take a peak if your not familiar.

I too live in cali. My step-daughter ( one of them) is in 6th grade and her friend during the course of the year has declared herself "gay, bi-sexual, and now straight"..

The 8th grader her close friend who is into dark wiccan stuff, has had relationships now with girls and boy at the age of 13!

Its a huge problem the enemy loves.

But as mentioned, she is far from being a lost cause. I was raised in difficult homes and didn't know my savior until I was close to 31ish, now I am on fire and no one is going to put me out!
So you never know, God may use this and He CAN use this to glorify His kingdom down the road. Think of the testimony she will have?

I know as a parent you don't want to see it, but our Father doesn't either, if He has to watch and wait, at times all we can do it put the path out there , light it and hope they are drawn to it.

But most of all pray!
I will be in prayer, ask your church to pray and I will put her on my churches prayer list!

God Bless

Keep your strength you have in HIM!

JennForDelano · #16 (**permalink**) 03-01-2008, 01:27 AM

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Why can't the schools be held responsible for these things when if they even mention Christianity the ACLU is all over them? It sounds like that school is dangerous for all the kids not just your daughter. If she is only in high school then perhaps you should look into changing schools, it may be difficult, it may be financially challenging but it could be just what is needed (I assure that it will not be wanted by her).

I would change her school, but I am afraid if I simply switch her to some other school, the same influences will be there.

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Can your pastor help?

I've asked my pastors help (three at my school, two guys and one girl) and they said they'll help in anyway possible.

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This sounds too big for you, you need help. You can pray and give it to God but He may be wanting you to make a change for her, have you thought about it?

I'm willing to make any changes necessary.

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By the way, I would be all over that school making some noise if they are really encouraging this lifestyle.

They claim I'm being a bigot and that if I continue to complain, I'll be basically committing child abuse.

JennForDelano · #17 (**permalink**) 03-01-2008, 01:32 AM

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Yeah if she is in High School and your able, I would yank her and get her in a private or home school or another High School if at alllll possible.

I can't home school at the moment, but I could put her in another school, but again I'm afraid the same influences will be there. She now goes to pro gay meetings which occur at her school! And I can't do anything about it...

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The other thing as suggested, is seek out counsel with your Pastor and see if he has expirience with spiritual warfare, your going to need help in this area. My family had been involved in witchcraft and cults, even though I wasn't it still can open the door to the enemies presence in your home. Which of course leads to all kinds of hurts and chaos.

I'll ask my pastors about spiritual warfare. It doesn't involve violence...does it?

TrinityLives · #18 (**permalink**) 03-01-2008, 04:03 AM

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Originally Posted by JennForDelano

I can't home school at the moment, but I could put her in another school, but again I'm afraid the same influences will be there. She now goes to pro gay meetings which occur at her school! And I can't do anything about it...

I'll ask my pastors about spiritual warfare. It doesn't involve violence...does it?

No no violence at all!

Just will give you some great insight into what she may be bringing in your home via her activities.... I just got in I shall look up the books I have on the issue and post so more in a bit for you.

Know we are all here for you , vent , chat, ask... we shall pray

TrinityLives · #19 (**permalink**) 03-01-2008, 04:17 AM

I just remembered one of the books that was really helpful and my Pastor had told me about

"seeing the unseen" By Joe Beam

You can go to his website and see some info

http://www.joebeam.com/

again I shall post or PM more later ... and I am sure when D Mckay is back He will have info and others too.

JennForDelano · #20 (**permalink**) 03-01-2008, 04:32 AM

Thank you for the help, but more problems have arisen

I told my daughter that she can no longer go to these school meetings promoting homosexuality and other..things, but she basically told me to bug off and said there's nothing I can do about it. And at the moment there is not...also, she just came home with a Book of Shadows. Do any of you know what the heck that is? Is it a book promoting satan or something? I can only guess from the Shadows title...