I believe I have failed as a parent, my daughter is gay.

[JennForDelano]

when my oldest went through her phase of pushing the envelope...she came home one day to a bed and a dresser in her room, bare walls, no desk, books, music, stereo (any of the other junk they just "can't live without). She had 6 changes of school clothes and one nice outfit for church. that was it...NOTHING else...

We just wear the same clothes we wear in normal day activities when we go to Church, and she did come with us last weekend, but was dressed in truly bizarre clothing, everyone in the church was staring and bewildered...except our pastor. I think she was just laughing.

[JennForDelano]

Well things have gotten pretty bad...I talked with my daughter, and she admitted (I don't know if it's true, could just be trying to trick me) to having sex with a girl that's been her friend for awhile. She came over to the house a few times, and she seemed really nice, until I found out she was a lesbian and told her to scram. Now they just see each other during and after school, and worse things have happened!

[AGs]

Originally Posted by JennForDelano

Well things have gotten pretty bad...I talked with my daughter, and she admitted (I don't know if it's true, could just be trying to trick me) to having sex with a girl that's been her friend for awhile. She came over to the house a few times, and she seemed really nice, until I found out she was a lesbian and told her to scram. Now they just see each other during and after school, and worse things have happened!

i think she is more off getting your attention, i dont think that if she really have had sex she would tell you... but then again i dont really know your relationship, how close you are...


and regarding the marriage (dont want to be rude or discourage you in any way, just letting my thaughst roll) i think no matter how long you lived together it is still decent to get married now, better later than never. Marriage is not just papers(thou even that plays a big role in many cases) its a special bond between two people, its a promis to be committed (not sure if im using the right word) to each other for life. I have known different couples, but the marriage always got people to a different kind of relationship. So i would advice you to consider getting married.

[JennForDelano]

and regarding the marriage (dont want to be rude or discourage you in any way, just letting my thaughst roll) i think no matter how long you lived together it is still decent to get married now, better later than never. Marriage is not just papers(thou even that plays a big role in many cases) its a special bond between two people, its a promis to be committed (not sure if im using the right word) to each other for life. I have known different couples, but the marriage always got people to a different kind of relationship. So i would advice you to consider getting married.

When you're in your late 30s and you've been with someone for a long time, is that a good time to get married?

[TrinityLives]

Originally Posted by JennForDelano

When you're in your late 30s and you've been with someone for a long time, is that a good time to get married?

This is a basic concept for a Christian walking with Christ. I would have a sit down talk with your Pastors. I am not sure what your looking for us to say. We are not here to condemn nor to tell you how to live.

If things have not been working to your satisfaction at home you need to seek counsel with your Pastor in my opinion.... I think you will have a great eye opener, pray on it

[RestoreTheRiver]

While Linda and I didn't live together, we didn't marry until I was 36 years old. It was the first marriage for me, and her second. One's age at the time has little to do with it. Marriage, not living together, is God's plan.

Michael

[JennForDelano]

This is a basic concept for a Christian walking with Christ. I would have a sit down talk with your Pastors. I am not sure what your looking for us to say. We are not here to condemn nor to tell you how to live.

I'm simply asking for advice. Do you think I should get married, from a Christian perspective, or is it okay to simply just live with my partner? Your guys advice so far has been very helpful.

[under His wings]

Jenn, I am just trying to be careful here and not read anything into what you have said so far. But it seems that some of your comments have been kind of misleading up to this point. Several people have said that marriage is a basic concept of walking with Christ, not living together. But your last question has thrown me a bit, you asked if we think you should marry your partner, you do mean your daughters father, correct? If that is correct than yes, if a man and woman are committed enough to have children together, live together, provide for one another and both of you love Christ and want to live lives pleasing to Christ, then you should marry.

One other concern from earlier, you said your pastor doesn't think it is necessary to read scripture during worship. How can one teach the Word of God without reading it? Does your pastor, and do you, believe the bible is the inerrant, inspired Word of God?

[intricatic]

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