Check-In 2

[kayd1966]

seeker....I believe I can speak for a lot of us here, we've all been there and we're sure we'll be there again as the Holy Spirit sees fit.

Your description of the distant hum of a voice and the quick swat on the toosh to bring us back to reality was perfect. I know exactly what you mean.

I will continue to pray for you and your kids and of course, your hubby. Ultimately this path we are walking is to one day be with Jesus and to see our children and spouses come to accept Jesus as their Savior.

I've mentioned this in that past so bare with me...when you have time to concentrate on what God is saying, read through 1 Peter 3. Meditate on the Word and ask the Lord to work in you and through you. But be prepared...the results might not be what you are expecting...God's vision for our lives is SO much better than anything we could ever imagine and the best thing is that He promices to use our mistakes for good because He has the power to do it. Don't ever believe that I am saying this (or any marriage) is a walk in the park...its not...we live in our mission field and we don't even have the luxury of escaping the mission field for furlough...we live it everyday...but on the other hand...what a blessing that God knows we can handle this. He believes in us. He promises to be there every step of the way for us to cry out to, lean on, and find joy in. He is the Prince of Peace and in Corinthians He commands us to live in peace. What a huge responsibility.

God Bless...

[kayd1966]

looks like we were posting at the same time

[seeker]

Thank-you Kay
I will read through 1 Peter 3 today (get DH to watch teh girls so i can really meditate on it). Thank-you your words are always really sound and uplifting, they really are.

seeker

[Jenniewren]

Seeker, I admire your humbleness before God to allow him to lead you and change you. It is so easy to justify our own bad behaviour because of how the other person behaves. Well done for submitting to God's discipline.
As for the dreams, We know God often talks to people via their subconcious in dreams. If you ask him I am sure He will reveal the meanings at the right time. It may even be something that becomes clear to you gradually over time. I am Still coping with the thought of anyone fancying Kevin Rudd! lol.

I havn't got time to add much today, still praying for everyone's families xox

Cory, I know what it was I wanted to comment on. When Seeker first posted you said a few things about the group and one of the things you mentioned was the need to be careful when relationships grow with a member of the opposite sex. To be careful of PM's etc especially as many of us struggle in our relationships. I think you are right as temptation is everywhere and often sneaks up on us from an innocent beginning. It is very difficult because of this care we have to take to get to know CHristian men as friends when you are an UY woman. I wanted to add that this group has enabled me to have a real insight into the way men think about life etc etc. Often looking at things from a masculine point of view adds clarity and logic. I for one have changed my views about DH for the better on a few points. So I wanted to thank all the guys for being so open and honest.

[seeker]

I think i must have missed something.....i don't remember Cory saying anything about being careful with the opposite sex etc. was there some reason why you have mentioned this Cory when i first posted? (i have just noticed it in Jenniewrens last post).
Can i just say that I have grown up in Melbourne Victoria where there was never really an issue with mixed gender friendships and before i met my Dh 8 years ago I lived with a guy from the time i was 16 until i was 28 and i was very good freinds with many of his male friends (many who were also friends with my female freinds) in a very harmless and normal way. So I guess my point is that if I have crossed a line (been too friendly) too I don't know ....too anything then that is probably just because I am used to being friendly around and having mixed gender friends. If i cross anybody elses line of appropriateness then please do not hesitate to let me know. I wont be offended, i understand that different people have different cultural and personal perspectives on this. if I have upset any males sending them a personal message to be friends, again i am sorry but i sent more out to females and sent a half doz out at the same time.
I will be careful of others feelings and think more about others. i don't think of others where this is concerned i must admit as i don't have a problem with feeling drawn to the opposite sex or away from my DH in that way.

Ps I don't find Kevin Rudd atractive ...I promise....I think he was in there as some obscure representation of something. Maybe leadership? I don't really know.
Any way if I have caused any discomfort then i am sincerely sorry. But I am really blessed by God to have a really loyal heart to my DH physically and emotionaly. I say blessed because i know it is Him in us that does good things in us.

Sorry rambling now ......feel a little unnerved.

seeker

[seeker]

sorry
I have just found Cory's post and it was a general kind of warning about the temptations of gettting too close outside of the main forum. Please don't have any concerns where I am concerned on this.

seeker

[cory]

yes it was general advice I personaly am very carefull not to allow pms to go on and on with a female as there is always a risk when things are hidden. in the main forum we need a level of openness that can be playing with fire in private. many an affair has started with the statement "my wife doesn't understand me"
Seeker, as to the swat from the lord I have been there. My marriage did not start to improve untill I really listened and started to change myself instead of trying to change her. I wonder how many years (decades) did I waste? now I try to be who God wants me to be ignore her flaws and quit trying to "catch" her and God has started working with her to change. But, even if she never changed I would still be better for my changes.

[seeker]

Cory
God is telling me exactly what he has told you Cory. I am starting to see now how focussing on the other person or even 'the relationship' can really stunt the work God wants to do in me.
And i have sent you a personal message saying hi and clearing up a really small crossed wires thing but i know that you could vouch that I have never in any way tried to establish conversation outside of the thread. Hope i did not offend.

seeker.

[cory]

Wayne,
Yes the extra two boys are a challenge and I will take any prayers offered. One has been homeless more or less since he was 14 or 15. his dad abandoned him with his psychotic mother. when she was locked up he had nowhere to go. Now I am trying to give him a crash course in being a part of a family and a responsible adult. He has a good heart but is an eddy haskel kind of user out of necesity.
The other is my DW's cousin's adopted son both birth parents are druggies he has a meth habit though he is clean now. in part he came up to washington to get away from druggie freinds and dealers in Oregon. when he fell off the wagon before he did what druggies do and ripped off his parents and grandparents for drug money. They had to put him out to protect themselves and make consequences for his actions.now his parents are divorcing as they only stayed together for his sake which he says was evident and a mistake. He said the other day that nobody in the world cares about him parents or anyone. I explained that he is in my home because we care and I hope to introduce him to someone else who cares even more.

[seeker]

wow that's a handful cory. i will pray for you and the boys you are caring for.

seeker